there are so many things that have gone wrong on my natural hair journey. from breakage to dryness to even over moisturizing! so, looking back on my journey I finally figured out what I was doing wrong. i wanted to share these tips with you that way if you are currently doing these things you can stop, and if you are starting your hair journey or in the middle of it, you can stray away from the mistakes that i’ve made.
DETANGLING THE WRONG WAY OR NOT DETANGLING ENOUGH.
my hair is super thick so if I don't detangle it, it will become matted or even super dry. before I learned how to properly detangle, i would just run the comb through my hair without even caring about the tangles. by doing that, it caused a lot of my hair to fall out. and when you have natural hair, detangling is an important part of your hair regime. i would recommend finger detangling or only detangling when your hair is wet or has some product in it with a wide tooth comb. Detangling on dry hair can cause breakage.
SLEEPING WITHOUT A SCARF/BONNET.
i remember going to bed without covering my head with anything. i usually have a cotton pillow case, and cotton plays a big part in dry hair. If you don't cover your hair at night or sleep on a cotton pillow case, your hair will become dryer over night. its very important to protect your hair when you are sleeping and satin is the best thing for it. i would recommend a satin bonnet or satin pillow case. both of these items can be found at your local beauty supply store.
USING TOO MUCH HEAT.
before, when i wore my hair straight all the time, i felt that i needed to touch it up everyday. yeah, that means running a flat iron though my hair EVERYDAY. can you guess what happened? yep, heat damage. heat damage is probably the worst thing you can do to your hair, especially if you are using high amounts of heat. that goes for blow dryers as well. now, I'm not saying you shouldn't use heat, but if you wear your hair straight a lot, try not to use the flat iron until you wash your hair again. Even going a few months without heat will get you into the habit of not using it as much. i would recommend starting off with 3 months without flat ironing your hair just to give our hair a break and see where that goes.
NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO PRODUCT INGREDIENTS.
most shampoos and even some stylers have a lot of ingredients in them that aren't good for your hair. ingredients like alcohol, petrolatum, sulfates, chlorine, and fragrances can cause dryness in your hair. its important not to constantly use products with these ingredients in them so frequently. i would recommend trying to find products that don't contain some of even all of these ingredients.
COMPARING HAIR JOURNEYS.
watching hair videos on youtube is probably the best motivation that i have when it comes to my natural hair. the only downside to that is you start to think your hair is like theirs and then wonder why your hair isn't growing or isn't as healthy. i know its fun and inspiring to see other hair journeys, but don't get so caught up their hair that you forget about your own hair needs. try not to compare your hair with someone else's. just because someone is using a certain products, doesn't necessarily mean that product will work on yours.
FOCUSING MORE ON GROWTH THAN HEALTH.
i use to think that having long hair was the most important thing on my hair journey. well, i was wrong. don't worry so much about growth more than you do on the healthiness of your hair. you have to remember that if your hair isn't healthy, then it wont grow.